Men are born soft and supple; dead, they are stiff and hard.

Plants are born tender and pliant; dead, they are brittle and dry.

Thus whoever is stiff and inflexible is a disciple of death.

Whoever is soft and yielding is a disciple of life.

The hard and stiff will be broken.

The soft and supple will prevail.

 – Tao te Ching


This 76th verse of the Tao Te Ching, sums up a very interesting phenomenon in the world. The harder we resist something the more it persists! When we have an immovable point of view, it seems that we are confronted with it the whole time. We seem to run into the proverbial wall when we try to force others to see our way. We want other people to embrace our point of view and we do not care if they are right or wrong. What we know as truth, is obviously truth. We will stick to this truth, even if it kills us…

Does this mean that we should not have morals or values or any system that keeps our dignity intact?

Of course not!

Unfortunately, it is in our nature to manipulate situations and people to suit our reality and support our goals. Manipulation is life, we are co-dependent on one another and not one person can survive without a dependency on something or someone. That is the reality of this reality.

There is another way to travel in this human form that allow us to be supple and flexible without betraying our own essence. We should realize where we come from. When we realize we come from nothing and return to nothing, then nothing is actually wrong with believing in nothing, right? Wrong! We need to understand that we come from nothing but we are manifested into something. Einstein had a nice quote that said that reality is an illusion, albeit a persistent one, and persistent it is.

So, we need to stand for something, and when our something that we stand for does not resonate with someone else’s belief, then that is okay.

We can listen to their point of view, we can hear what they are trying to tell us, we can accept that they also come from nothing and that they manifested into something, so it does not matter what they believe.

What is important is that we can live with our own soul and its manifestation in this world. With our minds we need to be at peace with the choices we make whilst understanding that we are not our minds. With our bodies we need to be at peace with the deeds that we do, whilst we understand that we are not our bodies.

The only real thing seems to be love. Rumi said it the best:

Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it. 

May we all find our barriers and remove them only to find that you are right and I am right.